THERE IS MORE TO ME THAN "JUST" MOM
BY MELISSA GRANDKOSKI
Self care for a mother is a learned skill. Meaning you need to keep at it to reap the benefits. I think we as mothers easily get wrapped up in our day to day, non-stop caregiving, home maker lives, that we forget to fill up our own tanks. An empty mom tank trickles down into all aspects of the family life. So mama, get yourself some!
Figure out what it is that you need to recharge your battery. Everyone needs something different, while one seeks solitude and a good book, another may find social gatherings more their thing. I for one, feel recharged when I meet up with friends for dinner and drinks and delve into conversation that expands beyond kids and parenthood. It took me a while to get to a point where I realized how much I needed this. There is more to me than just mom. I now make a conscious effort to make plans with my friends whether it be a lunch date, drinks, or mellow home hang. It recharges me and reminds me of my "self" that gets so easily steamrolled over with motherhood.
2. MAKE ME TIME PART OF YOUR ROUTINE
Schedule your "me" time with the fam. Make it part of your routine. As a stay at home mama bird of two littles, self care is one that is hard to come by. You're on call 24 hours a day, so carving in that ME time needs to be routine thing or "your" time will get lost in the day-to-day shuffle. For instance, both my kids (2 and 4 years old) know that Tuesdays and Thursdays I go to yoga. No surprises, and I peace out. These yoga sessions keep me sane and when I miss classes, I am reminded of what a positive impact going has on me. It makes me more patient, and therefore a better mama.
3. MOM DAYS
I am a big fan of "Mom Days." They come at random, but you know when you need them. Days sans kids. A day to what ever the hell you want. Shopping, going to see a movie, getting a coffee, cleaning the house without interruptions, crafting, massage, pedi/mani, dress up, dress down, etc. Whatever it is that tickles your fancy, do it. Give yourself one day a week devoted to just you. Take a whole day or only take a few hours, but gift yourself that time. Be your own best friend and take care of yourself as you do to those loved ones around you.
Melissa Grandkoski is an Outerwear Designer, Macrame Artist, and Mama Bird who calls Portland, Oregon home. Macrame has taken a forefront in her creative endeavors, as she now stays at home with her two littles.