MOM CRUSH: MEGAN
Fieldwork Flowers mama shares her FREE-SPIRITED take on intuitive parenting, propagating plants and the importance of open communication.
INTERVIEW BY KARIN HESSELVIK
PHOTOS BY MIKOLA ACCUARDI
WHAT'S THE FIRST THING YOU REMEMBER CREATING?
A "cozy" home for tadpoles that I'd taken from the neighborhood pond. Mason jar, pond water, leaves. They made my heart feel so full, but then they started losing limbs. It really went downhill from there so Mom gently explained why she was returning them to the pond. Little cuties.
THE MOST RECENT THING YOU CREATED?
Lasagna. Actually, I also made a few buttons for the landing page of my web site.
are you a kid or a grown up?
A grown up.
what are you most proud of?
My ability to communicate clearly with my daughter, Patti (5). With the day-to-day hustle it can be difficult to stop and shift from strategizing how I'm going to move 1,000 canes of Eucalyptus and other perishable items that I purchased because their season is short, to how I'm going to make payroll because I accidentally got a little pay-happy with a vendor I've been trying to pay off, to how I'm going to entertain Patti at the shop because her (expensive) school is closed again and we've got three Fieldwork events in one day, including an install that requires me up on a ladder, to worrying about how my Mom's health is fading.
Patti is everything to me. There is nothing that makes me more proud than exposing her to my hard work without leaking anything negative that would make her feel sad for me. I want her to see me as resilient, and I want her to know she can always come to me regardless of what's going on. So when we're together I encourage conversation. All the other stuff can wait.
WHen are you your most creative self?
After a quad Americano and under pressure.
what is your most precious object?
Plants I've been propagating. Rose Geranium. Lemon Verbena. Cuban Oregano.
WHAT BRINGS YOU PEACE?
The smell of Rose Geranium.
WHAT's SOMETHING THAT ENERGIZES YOU?
The scent of Lemon Verbena. And making improvements - the process of identifying issues and conceptualizing ideas and feeling decisive about a plan of attack. I get all fired up!
HOW DO YOU NURTURE YOURSELF?
I run a few miles, drink a TON of water, and go for long drives to flower farms or fruit orchards, and listen to my song of the moment on repeat, then I lay down in the sun. Spontaneity and feeling free is most nurturing for me.
HOW DO YOU STAY INSPIRED?
I zone out on flowers, their textures and scents, and color. I think about growth. I compare plants to people and meditate on the similarities we have. I feel inspired by resilience and success following dark, sometimes malnourished, days.
WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH MORE TIME?
Garden, juice fruit for breakfast, exercise, work, spend time with girlfriends, clean (I like cleaning), travel, bake, sew, do kind things for my boyfriend, visit more farms, shops, museums.
IF YOU COULD BE ANY PLANT OR FLOWER?
‘Attar of Roses’ Rose Geranium, for sure.
HOW do you define success?
Making the right decisions.
THREE WORDS THAT DESCRIBE YOUR TAKE ON MOTHERHOOD?
Communication. Risk. Love.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED ABOUT YOURSELF SINCE YOU BECAME A MOM?
That I'm not selfish.
WHAT ROLE DOES CREATIVITY PLAY IN HOW YOU PARENT?
I often parent intuitively which seems to require some creative thinking when it comes to communicating pros and cons on a whim. I’m still bringing work home so a lot of what I do, Patti does as well, like play flower shop and garden. She likes painting and cooking too. Sometimes we sew, she tries make her school friends potato-sack like sweatshirt dresses. We have fun, especially now that she cleans up after herself!
BEST THING ABOUT BEING A SINGLE MOM?
Time together, just two gals being human.
Being away from her, and knowing that her Dad misses her and she misses him when she’s with me. They’re super close, it’s great.
WHAT IS A LIFE HACK YOU'VE LEARNED AS A MOM?
When she was an infant I was able to ditch out of events early. Hell I don’t know. I could use some though!
ONE THING YOUR DAUGHTER HAS TAUGHT YOU?
That she loves raw oysters, big ones. She’s totally open to exploring food where I’m stuck on burgers and fries, and similar food groups.
what's an IRL moment that doesn't show up on your insta feed?
Patti giving me a bath.
One lie you've told your daughter?
That I have a meeting when really I have a wreath class. She insists on attending wreath class which can sometimes be too much.
ONE THING YOU'd STILL LIKE TO ACHIEVE?
Have a farm for Fieldwork to grow flowers and herbs for the shop, and make essential oils. I’d like to teach less fortunate mothers and their children how to arrange flowers. I’d like Patti to be with me through it all.
what role do you think the creative community can play during this political climate?
We can all do something. I think coming from a place from privilege (I have very little to complain about), I'm always willing to donate my time and am passionate about using my skills and resources to help those in need, women and children in particular. We have plans in the works to teach disadvantaged women the creative art of flower arrangement and then sell them with proceeds going back to the shelter. I picture lots of hands of women and children working together.
IF YOU COULD SEND FLOWERS TO ANYONE?
SOMETHING YOU'RE STRUGGLING WITH RIGHT NOW?
I’m having a hard time with how little my Mom and I speak anymore.
a LESSON LEARNED IN 2016
Patti and Ben (my boyfriend) love each other so it’s more effective for them to sort out any disagreement than for me to step in.
one dream for 2017
Buying a farm.
something you'd like to tell another pom pom mom trying to figure it all out?
Roll with the punches, you’re all over it even when you don’t feel right. Be patient with yourself and the ones you love. Never stop trying to come up with creative new solutions.
MEGAN RUNS A BEAUTIFUL SHOP IN PORTLAND CALLED FIELDWORK FLOWERS, WHERE YOU CAN GET RAD ARRANGEMENTS, SEASONAL BULK FLOWERS OR TAKE CLASSES.